The Path Towards Weeping out of Fear of Allâh
Taqwa of Allâh, dilligently working hard to achieve it, and being sincere in it
Allâh, the Most High, says in the Qur’ân
“Fear Allâh and Allâh teaches you”. (2:282)
It has been mentioned in Ruh al-Ma’âni, “Fear Allâh” in what he has ordered you to do and in what he has forbidden you from. And “Allâh teaches you” his laws, which contain your best interests. And weeping is from that. Allâh, the Most High, says
“As for those who strive hard in Us (our cause), We will surely guide them to our paths”. (29:69)
And weeping is also from that. On the authority of Anas (radiallahu anhu) on the authority of the Messenger of Allâh (salaala hu alaihee wa salaam) who said
“Three types of people will find the sweetness of imân; the one to whom Allâh and His Messenger are more beloved than anything else; the one who loves another person purely for the sake of Allâh; and the one who hates to return to disbelief after Allâh has rescued him from it, just as he would hate to be thrown into the fire”. And weeping is included in this sweetness. (Bukhârî and Muslim)
Allâh, the Most High, says in the Qur’ân
“It is only those who have knowledge amongst His slaves that fear Allâh” (35:28)
Allâh, the Most High, also says in the Qur’ân
“Say: Believe in it (ie the Qur’ân) or do not believe (in it). Verily! Those who were given knowledge before it, when it is recited to them, fall down on their faces in humble prostration, and they say: “Glory be to our Lord! Truly the promise of our Lord must be fulfilled. And they fall down on their faces weeping, and it adds to their humility”. (17:107-9)
‘Abdul A’lâ al-Taymee, said with regard to these noble verse:
“Whoever is given knowledge that doesn’t make him weep, then clearly he has not been given knowledge that benefits, because Allâh, the Most High, has described the knowledgeable by saying: (17:107)”.
Allâh, the Most High, says in the Qur’ân:
“And those who have been given knowledge know that it (the Qur’ân) is the truth from your Lord, and that they may believe therein, and their hearts may submit to it with humility. And verily Allâh is the guide of those who believe in the Straight Path” (22:54)
On the authority of Abû Dharr (radiallahu anhu) who said that the Messenger of Allâh (salaala hu alaihee wa salaam) said,
“I can see what you do not see, and I can hear what you do not hear. Indeed the sky groans (the large no.s of angels in the sky make it heavy so that it groans) and it has a right to do so. There is not an area equal to that of four fingers, except that an angel is prostrating to Allâh therein. By Allâh! If you knew what I know you would laugh little and weep much, and you would not enjoy your wives in bed. But rather you would come out onto the hills, supplicating and praying fervently to Allâh” (Ahmad, at-Tirmidhî, Ibn Mâjah, hasan)
The Remembrance of Death
There is no doubt that death ends the delights and pleasures of this life, just as the Messenger of Allâh (salaala hu alaihee wa salaam) has told us:
“Increase in your remembrance of the destroyer of all pleasures: ie death. For verily one who remembers it when enduring the hardships of life, it widens for him (ie he no longer feels overburdened with the hardships he is experiencing). Whenever one remembers it at times of opulence, it will cause him to feel restricted and burdened (ie he will not be too involved with this life and will start to reflect on the serious and heavy matters awaiting him).” (an-Nasâ’î, at-Tirmidhî – hasan ghareeb, Ibn Mâjah)
The pleasures are what prevent a tear to be shed, nor any sadness and grief to be felt in the heart. So increase in your remembracnce of death, in an attempt to feel
the terrors and horrors that will follow it, fearing an evil destination, so that you may succeed with weeping out of fear of Allâh. Indeed this is easy for the one whom Allâh wishes to make it easy for. On the authority of Ibn ‘Umar (ra) who said “I was with the Messenger of Allâh (saw) when a man from the Ansar came up to the Messenger of Allâh (saw) and greeted him with the salâm and then said:
“O Messenger of Allâh (salaala hu alaihee wa salaam) which of the believers are the best?” He replied “Those who are the best in character”. Then he asked “Which of the believers are the most intelligent?” He (alaala hu alaihee wa salaam) replied: “Those who remember death the most and those who are best prepared for what comes after it (death). These are the intelligent ones””
From the book of Shiekh Husayn al-‘Awâyishah
DIfferent Types of Weeping
Ibn al-Qayyim said: “The types of weeping are:
1. The weeping of mercy and compassion.
2. The weeping of fear and reverence.
3. The weeping of love and longing.
4. The weeping of joy and happinses.
5. The weeping of worry and anguish brought about by pain, and the inability to bear it.
6. The weeping of sadness.
7. The weeping of fatigue and weakness.
8. The weeping of hypocrisy, that is when the eyes fill up with tears, while the heart is hard.
9. The weeping of the false and hired, such as the woman who is paid to wail**
(** It was an old arab custom in pre-Islâmic Arabia, to hire people to attend someone’s funeral, in order to cry and wail, and cause much commotion and noise, to make it appear to other people that the deceased was very much liked and missed. The Prophet (alaala hu alaihee wa salaam) later condemned this).
10. The weeping of agreement, that is when a person sees other people crying over something that has happened to them, so he too starts to cry, not knowing why they are crying” (Zâd al Ma’âd)