Wife’s Duties and Husband’s Rights


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The fourth question of Fatwa no. 9404

Q 4: What is the ruling on a woman doing housework, such as cleaning and washing? Is she considered a sinner if she neglects it? Is it one of her duties towards her husband to cook for him? Can a husband prevent his wife from buying whatever she wants with her money if she has enough accessories and other luxurious things? Her husband provides her food, clothing,

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and shelter, but she does not want the clothes her husband buys for her; she wants to buy expensive clothes, accessories and luxurious things for herself and her son. She buys all this from her own money, but her husband does not agree to this and does not buy her most of the accessories that she wants. As the Nafaqah (obligatory financial support) is obligatory on a husband, can he prevent his wife from buying anything for the house with her own money? Please suggest for me some useful books or publications related to marital life, a wife’s rights, and also child rearing, whether issued by the Committee or others. Do not forget to include information on their prices and where I can purchase them. Please provide me with a detailed reply, as I am a common man and I need to know everything in detail related to marriage and raising children.

A: Firstly, the ruling on a wife doing housework, such as cooking, washing, cleaning and so on differs according to the social class, customs and traditions of each society. Secondly, a husband cannot prevent his wife from buying foods and clothes with her own money, unless she is a spendthrift or buys something prohibited. In this case, he should prevent her from wasting her money or buying prohibited things and should be firm about that.

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May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

The Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta’

Deputy Chairman Chairman
`Abdul-Razzaq `Afify
`Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz

> A wife being kind to the parents-in-law as an act of good companionship

The third question of Fatwa no. 18280

Q 3: is it the husband’s right that his wife should treat his parents kindly and be dutiful to them even if they are not Muslims? It should be noted that they live in a separate apartment away from his family and she visits them occasionally. We appreciate your advice. May Allah reward you best!

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A: A Muslim woman is required to treat people kindly, whether they are in-laws or anyone else, and this is highly stressed when it comes to her husband’s parents because this strengthens the marital bond and helps the husband express dutifulness to his parents. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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Salih Al-Fawzan
`Abdullah ibn Ghudayyan
`Abdul-`Aziz Al Al-Shaykh
`Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz

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A wife serving her parents-in-law

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Fatwa no. 4985

Q: I have a seventy-year-old mother who lives in Syria. I am her only male child. I left the country three years ago. Please keep in mind the difficult conditions prevailing in the country, especially in the distressed governorate of Hamah. Of course, the news reached you about it. That is why I prefer not to travel there. However, my mother lives there alone. Last month, she was afflicted with a disease that has made her incapable of moving. My mother wishes that I send my wife toSyria to help her during this painful sickness. My wife does not want to travel because of the difficult conditions there and because of her four children who are unable to help themselves. Even more, one of those children is young and requires continuous care, especially that he is sick and needs special care. Moreover, she does not want to travel alone. I am intending to send my wife with the teachers who will travel to Syria at the end of this school year, but my wife does not want to. The question is: Is there any obligation in Shari`ah (Islamic law) that a wife should nurse her mother-in-law? If my wife does not travel, will I be undutiful to my mother who may be angry at me because of this?

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A: First, there is nothing in Shari`ah that obligates a wife to help her mother-in-law, except if she does this out of her kindness, capability, and good treatment to her husband and for the sake of establishing ties with her husband’s relatives. Second, your wife is excused if she does not travel to your mother for fear of the difficult conditions and dangers prevailing in the country where your mother lives. There is no sin on you if she does not want to travel even if your mother is angry. You have to be dutiful to your mother in other ways as much as you can. For example, you can bring her to live with you, send her money to hire someone to serve her, or do any other thing within your capabilities. May Allah help you! May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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`Abdullah ibn Qa`ud
`Abdullah ibn Ghudayyan
`Abdul-Razzaq `Afify
`Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz

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A wife who hates her father-in-law

Fatwa no. 12193

Q: i have a wife who lives in a separate house away from my parents whom she deeply hates. She does not even like them to come to the house. It should be noted that she has four children. When my parents visit me, she does not serve them. It is I who serve them food, which I actually buy from restaurants, make them coffee, and prepare their beds. I do not let them feel my wife’s dislike for them. When they ask me about her, I tell them that she and I had a quarrel. I do not want them to feel that she hates them. Please advise me. What should I do as regards my parents, this wife, and the children who are torn between their mother

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and me? Since I do not want to offend my wife, I would like to give her advice through your Fatwa (legal opinion issued by a qualified Muslim scholar). I will give the Fatwa to one of her brothers to read it to her as she is illiterate. As-salamu `alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah’s Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

A: Both the spouses should fear Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) and do their duties towards each other in kindness. They should both be kind to their in-laws in order to create intimacy and become a close-knit family. Allah (Exalted be He) says: …and live with them honourably. He (Glorified be He) also says: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property). In his explanation of “devoutly obedient,” Ibn `Abbas and others said, “It refers to women who are obedient to their husbands.” Commenting on Allah’s Saying: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women , Ibn Kathir (may Allah be merciful with him) reported from Ibn `Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them) that he (Ibn `Abbas) said, “It means that men are in charge of them. A woman has to obey her husband in matters in which Allah has ordered her to obey him; and this includes

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being kind to his family and prudent with his money.” May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

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`Abdullah ibn Ghudayyan
`Abdul-Razzaq `Afify
`Abdul-`Aziz ibn `Abdullah ibn Baz

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